Be selfish and prioritize your happiness

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A lot of people get too caught up in career and family life while completely disregarding their happiness. We find a heroic notion in this by terming it ‘sacrifice’. Not prioritizing your happiness is a terrible thing to do to yourself and to those close to you. An unhappy person can only keep up the illusion of ‘everything is alright’ for so long.

Don’t you want to get out of bed every morning with a bright smile on your face? Don’t you want to greet everyone with a grin and rejoice in the beautiful weather? Don’t you want to go to bed every night, satisfied that you did your best and had an excellent day?

Make it a priority to be happy today. Being happy is not a future utopian goal. You will be productive when you are happy. The vice versa often does not work. A happy mind is a productive mind.

Learn to say “No”

I used to take the emotional burden of people onto myself until I actually saw how badly it messed me up. It’s important to have yourself sorted out before you take on other’s challenges. Learn to say no to unnecessary commitments and say yes to yourself. This is perhaps the most important skill you’ll have to learn for personal happiness. Countless times I have found myself saying yes to do a favor for someone when I didn’t want to or didn’t have the time to. Say no to any unnecessary commitments that come your way.

Do what you love

Stop focusing on what people want from you and think what you want from life.

Reflect upon how far you have come

Although you might be a long way from your goals, take a moment to consider all the ways you have grown along the way. What lessons have you learnt and how have you improved yourself? How different were you a few months ago? A few years ago? Find something positive you did and capitalize on that.

Maintain a balance of work and leisure

Too much work and too much leisure are both bad. Find and maintain a healthy balance of both.

Surround yourself with positive people

You will be the sum of the people you spend most time with. If you spend your time with procrastinating negative people, that’s how you’ll become.

Get moving

Exercise is an amazing tool to fix your emotional ruts. On days when I’ve been indoors for too long and felt down, I get myself re-energized by going for a simple ten-minute walk.

Have simple to-do lists

Have three major tasks on your list and get them done the earliest. Once you have completed your major tasks for the day then:

Give yourself permission to relax

Know when it’s time to step back and take a deep breath. Relax and congratulate yourself for a job well done. Enjoy your downtime as a reward for being productive and getting work done.


Being involved in the moment is so crucial to happiness! Otherwise, you’ll find your mind drifting to the past and the future. The real happiness lies in the present moment, not the past, nor the future. Shut down that time travel machine and live! I wrote this article on how mindfulness is a superpower you need.

Which habit are you going to pursue first to prioritize your happiness? Let me know in the comments below! Don’t forget to follow my social accounts so that you never miss a new article! Also,click on the ‘follow’ button on this page and enter your email address to get updates on new articles. Bookmark this site and tune in on Sundays at 11am and Wednesdays at 5pm for new articles!

Best books!




Book recommendation for this week:



The best-seller that helps you say: “I just said ‘no’ and I don’t feel guilty!” Are you letting your kids get away with murder? Are you allowing your mother-in-law to impose her will on you? Are you embarrassed by praise or crushed by criticism? Are you having trouble coping with people? Learn the answers in When I Say No, I Feel Guilty, the best-seller with revolutionary new techniques for getting your own way.

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