In case you didn’t read the previous article, go read it here. This is a continuation of that one. Now that you’ve done that, let’s proceed.
Being an ambivert has been an extremely rewarding experience for me. I have connected deeply with so many great individuals which I never would have, had I been the same socially-anxious person. I guarantee every person will experience benefits by applying the following principles.
1. Start going for small social events
Join clubs of your liking. Look up local meetups on Facebook, Meetup and other sites where people with your favorite hobby come together. There are so many trekking clubs I notice around here. I started with book clubs. It’s always fun to be around people who share your love for the same things!
2. Take up a social skill
Find a skill that requires you to be social and get good at it. Learn an instrument, play a sport, join a dancing class or work with actors in a play. When you get good at these, your social fears will vanish and you will boost confidence. Talk about win-win!
3. Join college clubs
This is a bonus for students in schools or colleges. There must be some clubs around your campus, go join them. If there aren’t any, start one! Schools and colleges are perhaps the easiest places to start being social.
4. Always keep enough time to recharge
Most importantly, keep a lot of time in-between your social commitments so that you can recharge yourself well enough.
Spend time by yourself and reflect
Meditation is an excellent skill to develop greater control over your mind. My basic three step process is- breathe deeply, silence all thoughts and then affirm everything you are and what you want to be. Do this for a few days and you will se amazing results.
Journaling is similar to meditation as in it provides relief to your mind. Just get a new notebook and write down anything you want to. How your day went, what your dreams are- everything. It helps you get to know yourself better. Once a day is fine at first- either first thing in the morning or just before going to bed. After a few days of practice, slowly start to write more positive and lesser negative.
Create a set of affirmations to say to yourself after meditating. Examples include- I am strong enough to face my fears, I will be successful, I choose to be calm and happy in all circumstances and so on. Do these daily and you will start to believe it. Pretty cool way to reprogram your brain, eh?
Reading is the best way to learn empathy. The ability to understand life from someone else’s perspective. When you read fiction, you see life from the perspective of the character. You understand why they do what they do. You develop critical thinking.
Note: It’s very long drawn process and it will take weeks or even months to start working. Keep taking small steps daily and it’ll happen. Cheers to an amazing life ahead of you!
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Book recommendation for this week:
A renowned inspirational fiction, The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari is a revealing story that offers the readers a simple yet profound way to live life. The plot of this story revolves around Julian Mantle, a lawyer who has made his fortune and name in the profession. A sudden heart-attack creates havoc in the successful lawyer’s life. Jolted by the sudden onset of the illness, his practice comes to a standstill. He ponders over material success being worth it all, renounces all of it and leaves for India.
A visit to India about a spiritual awakening that opens up new vistas and Julian begins to view life in a different perspective. He decides to live his life once again but in a way that is much more fulfilling and meaningful than before.
In the book, the reader goes through a spiritual journey and into a very old culture that has gathered much wisdom over the millennia. The book advocates about how to live happily, think deep and rightly, value time and relationships, be more disciplined, follow the heart’s call and live every moment of the life.
Written in simple words, the book has turned out to be a bestseller and is more than just an endearing story. Through storytelling, Robin Sharma showcases the miracles and wonders of living a fulfilling life. In the process, the book introduces readers to enlightening yet simple principles that vouch to make life better, happier and more meaningful.
A bestselling novel, what readers all over the globe appreciate about this book is its deft amalgam of the philosophies from both western and eastern worlds. The book has been followed by important personalities around the world.
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