I have failed a lot. I have failed multiple close relationships, failed the expectations of my near and dear ones, failed in examinations, failed to achieve my short term goals, failed in many many more aspects of life. But, I have learnt that failure is the path to true success. I know it hurts. It hurts so bad when you fail at something you desperately wanted to win at. Every person on the pathway to their dream will get just a little hint of success at the beginning, for encouragement. But, at some point of the journey, they will fail and fail horribly. It is at this point where your willpower is put to the ultimate test. Are you willing to give up everything else for your dream? Do you have the guts to rise up from this fall?
There are basically three types of ideologies surrounding failure. First- Failure is the worst thing that can happen, so avoid it by working hard. Second- We are all bound to fail, so why try? And Third- Failure is a stepping stone to success.
Which one do you choose?
Let’s address the Second one- Yes. Failure is inevitable. Yes, we will fail at some point of our life in some field. But, that should not stop us from trying to succeed. You should definitely work towards your dreams. No matter how many times you fail.
The First idea- Although this train of thinking does lead us to working hard; it is extremely stressful and detrimental to your brain. If you completely detest failure (which is inevitable, by the way) and fear it, you can kiss your success goodbye. You’ll be so scared of failure that you won’t be able to concentrate on the work at hand. The fear of failure will keep you from succeeding.
Idea number three- This is the one we should adhere to. Since failure is inevitable, simply stop fearing it. Work hardest to succeed, but do anticipate failure and decide what to do then. Failure is a stepping stone to success. The more you fail, the closer you get to success.
Don’t get me wrong, I am not asking you to set yourself up for failure. Quite the contrary, actually. I want you to work hard, be focused and concentrate on your dream. When you fail down the road to dream, find out what you did wrong, find out how to set it right and create a new road! Talk to the experts in your field and ask them what they learnt from their failures. Read about successful people and absorb their teachings.
Every great success story has been through failure. The greater the success, the greater was the failure.
As I fail, I look back and contemplate. I think about my mistakes, about the things I should and shouldn’t have done. I become better at my craft. I improve myself wholeheartedly. I grow.
So if you have failed, don’t sit around at home and cry about it, don’t listen to sad songs to ease the pain. I want you to ask yourself- What am I going to do now? Will I go on, or will I give up? Ask yourself- will I be the weak person who gave up, or the immensely strong one, who mustered up the courage and became so strong that no failure can reach you now? Go and write about it, get yourself moving and think about how to get back up. Make a plan and stick to it.
Go out there and live your dream. So what if you failed? It’s not a big deal. That is only a part of life. Failure and success are not always in our hands. What you can do is work hard towards it and hope for the best. You prove it to the world that you are not the person who gives up. You are not the person who will sit and weep over failed efforts. You learn something new every time you fail.
Don’t fear failure, learn from it. When one door closes, remind yourself that there are many others awaiting you!
Fail your way to success!